I’m thrilled to introduce you to Bonny Logsdon Burns. She writes at OysterBed7 where she encourages the low-libido wife through a Christian lens. Bonny has kindly offered to give away a free copy of her new book “Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation.”
After reading Bonny’s book, I believe the insight and encouragement she shares will be a blessing to your marriage no matter where you find yourself on the libido scale.
Pursuing One-Flesh Wisdom; Unlock Your Libido
My marriage slipped into a place of two-ness. He did his thing. I did mine. We had little harmony. I craved emotional connection through conversation and he craved emotional connection through physical intimacy.
The misery of rock bottom motivated us. We could only trust and do whatever God asked. He helped us recapture the lush love that overflowed in our early years.
God showed us that neither of us truly understood the one-flesh (Mark 10:8) nature of marriage. It’s a blend of spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy. Somehow we had managed to get the spiritual unity right. We just had to work on the other two.
My part of our healing was learning to understand God’s design of sexual intimacy.
Learning the truth of God’s word about sexual intimacy was pivotal. Somehow my heart had blurred the lines saying sex was fleshly, period. I didn’t understand that sexuality inside of marriage was God created and given a big nod of approval.
As I embraced God’s truth, I decided to engage consistently in the bedroom. I could not believe the transformation in our marriage. The physical nature of one-flesh spills over into every other area of our relationship. It became apparent that making love is my husband’s most intimate conversation.
My husband found that verbal communication came a whole lot easier because he felt understood and loved.
I thought sex was the problem. It turned out to be part of the answer! Who knew? Isn’t that just like God? His ways are mysterious and wonderful.
I was now eager to engage for the emotional and spiritual components. However, I still had one tiny problem, very little sex drive. Things were lovely once “in-process.” Physically, I just didn’t crave getting started.
I dove into research and found ways to help my libido. OysterBed7.com, my blog ministry, was born as a way to encourage the low-libido wife and help her understand the many dimensions of desire.
My readers and I did a challenge in 2013. We had positive results and a book was born, Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation. Although, not a Bible study, it is based on God’s Word. I blend scripture, science, and encouragement to help the low-libido wife understand that she can be a sensual creature. It’s an easy journey that may have profound results.
Hi! I’m Bonny Logsdon Burns. I write to encourage the low libido wife at www.OysterBed7.com.
I am passionate about empowering and equipping hurting women through God’s Word and practical tools.
I live in coastal Wilmington, NC, where I serve on the board of directors for Christian Women’s Job Corps. I’m currently completing a Christian Counseling course.
My husband, David, and I are candid about our struggles and victories. We have three sons.
My favorite thing to do is laugh at Dave’s corny jokes. We like to try new foods and dance to our own music.
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I will announce the winner on Tuesday, March 31, and contact her using the email address provided. She will have 48 hours to respond. The winner will receive “Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation” via pdf.
Good luck to everyone!
Rest in His presence.